I'm okay with the reasons

A friend sent me this a while back and I'm really appreciating it all over again.

"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, or a season."


As nice as the seasons and lifetimes are, I'm okay with reasons. I seem to be meeting many of those lately. Me, the 'friend for life' type. I love everyone easily and love them hard (falling "in love" is a whole other ballgame so don't get me wrong on that one). If I'm your friend I'll never not care how you are, even 10 years down the road, but lately there have been many who appear to be merely 'reasons' put in front of me. Wonderful, life changing, ...fleeting. I've never been okay with those - never okay severing a tie or watching it fray - but I'm learning to appreciate the way life teaches lessons anymore.

"...love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant."
That explains so much so well for me. Friendships to me are HUGE and developing a strong foundation to a friendship is the numero uno most important thing for me when getting to know someone, no matter what the friendship may or may not evolve into later. And that takes time. I want clairvoyant friendships. And I'm okay with clairvoyant REASONS, as sad as I will be to see them take the fork in the road that will take them out of my life. I think sometimes I even think for a while I'm on the SAME path as someone else and we've just finally stumbled into step, only to realize that their path is merely paralleling mine for a bit and will soon curve and wind and twist away from me. I mourn those, but as with everything if it's looked at as an experience to be lived and then learned from, reasons, season and lifetimes all become beautiful for exactly what they were.